You are frequently harsh on others, including yourself. If someone fails to meet your high standards, you may decide to cut them off completely. While you should have high expectations for a mate, be sure that your list serves you rather than preventing you from meeting someone unexpectedly. Tell yourself: When it comes to love, I’m not going to get in my own way. I work for myself rather than against myself.
You’re well-known for your independence. You always say that you don’t need anyone, that you’re OK on your own, and you mostly mean it. Even the most self-sufficient individuals require someone in their lives to make them feel unique. Don’t get too caught up in your independence that you lose touch with others. Tell yourself that needing someone does not make you weak and that you will not let your independence prevent you from finding them.
When you’ve been alone for more than a week, you begin to worry that the loneliness will linger forever. Remember that the majority of what happens in your life is fleeting. You could be alone right now, but that doesn’t mean you won’t meet someone great tomorrow. Tell yourself, “I’ll get through this.” Just because I’m lonely right now doesn’t imply I will be forever.
You’ve been told numerous times that you’re overly emotional. You could be starting to believe it after all this time. That has hampered your love life since you always chose people who downplay or shit-talk your emotions. Stop tolerating terrible relationships merely to avoid being alone. Tell yourself that there’s nothing wrong with being emotional. Waiting for someone who understands that is worthwhile.
You have a lot of “I’ll just do it myself” energy. You enjoy things the way they are, and letting someone into your life so completely is a difficult concept. How will they fit into your schedule? But by thinking about it so much, you’re closing yourself off to the potential of something new. Tell yourself, “I’ll let go a little and allow someone to enter my life and make it a little messy.”
When you don’t get the attention you require, you begin to feel isolated. You live on loving acts and extravagant gestures, so being away from those fairytale romance moments can make you feel as if you’ll be living the rest of your life alone. True love, on the other hand, is a combination of huge and tiny events. Tell yourself that you deserve a grandiose romance, both in grand gestures and quiet times.
You dislike the sensation of being alone. If you’re ever single, you interpret it as confirmation that there’s something wrong with you. So you do everything you can to locate a relationship as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, this implies that you frequently wind up in the wrong ones. Tell yourself that being alone right now means you’re ready for when something fantastic comes your way later. Right now, this is the best thing for me.
You’re conflicted. You want to protect yourself from those who might harm you, but you also want to find something unique with someone. Of course, those two things cannot occur simultaneously. If you let your guard down, the world will not end. Tell yourself that these walls keep me in just as much as they keep others out. Making myself a little more vulnerable will expose me to new opportunities.
Sometimes your logical, analytical mind gets in the way. As much as you’d like your lists and spreadsheets to assist you in finding someone, love doesn’t work that way. Although it may be difficult for you, you must simply go with the flow. Tell yourself that love is worth letting go of control, even if just a little.
You frequently take the “why bother” stance. You enjoy both big and small adventures, and the concept of attempting to fit someone into your enjoyable life seems like more work than it’s worth. Then you’re depressed because you’re alone. While it may take some time, you will eventually find someone who matches your lifestyle. All you have to do is try. Tell yourself, “I will not give up on love.” I can find the proper person for me, and there’s nothing wrong with trying.
You have a colorful past. Everybody does it. Unlike many of the other indicators on this list, though, you use your history to prove something in your present or future. Because previous relationships have failed, you use that as an excuse to not try again. Remember that failing to attempt is the worst kind of failure. Tell yourself that you are not your history. Just because I’ve been heartbroken in the past doesn’t imply it will always be that way.
While you and Cancer are sometimes mentioned in the same breath–you’re both full of sentiments and emotions–there is one major difference between you two. While Cancers freely express their emotions, whether they want to or not, you keep your deepest feelings to yourself. That shell is frequently difficult to break, keeping you from the emotional ties you require in a companion.
Tell yourself that it is okay to be emotional around others. Letting down my guard will assist me in finding my genuine companion.